Best friend dating my ex husband
I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.After some initial hesitation for the same reason, Angie agreed to go out with him, and their first date led to a delightful courtship that culminated in marriage.Although the couple couldn't be happier today, they pissed off a few folks along the way.I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her. I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend. I think, "My ex is dating my friend" is very common, especially if you live in the suburbs, where everyone knows everyone. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend (I mean, your ex friend).
So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated.
While many would say the ideal solution is to avoid run-ins completely, in many cases it's just not possible, especially when there are overlapping friends, locations, and events.